Beyond OK and Fine

OK (or okay) informal adj. satisfactory. adv. in a satisfactory way. New addition: K, to end a conversation or show sudden disapproval.

fine adj. 1 of very high quality. 2 satisfactory. 3 in good health. 4 (of the weather) bright and free from rain. 5 thin. 6 consisting of small particles. 7 delicate or complex. 8 subtle. n. a sum of money to be paid as punishment. v. make someone pay a fine.

The problem lies within the definition of both words; and here is the part where psychological profiling makes its grand entrance. You want to know what’s meant by both when they are the reply you get… the following case study will help you out.

The Case:

The person you have been going out with (and occasionally fucking) sends you the following text:

Hey, how you doin? Feel like having drinks at 7-ish?”

There are two possible replies to give here, since so far nothing bad has happened between the both of you:

“Hey! Yeah, 7 sounds fine. Where would you like to meet?”

or

“Hey. Things are ok. Wanna meet at Hamra?”

Before we go any further, let us consider both options thoroughly. The first is too enthusiastic but not pretentious; the second is more realistic but also nihilistic in a way.

People understand what Hamra means as either:

  • We’re getting a room after this.
  • I don’t want this to go beyond the walls of the pub we’re sitting in.

The good thing is that in both cases there’s a possibility that you’d slip into someone’s pants, even if just in the pub. The bad thing is that Hamra is a living entity by itself, and it loves sucking the squeamish life out of whoever treads its streets.

Now, from the above findings, I ask for your patience in the following study:

The person replies following what you sent, and naturally two possibilities exist as well:

How about we go to Manny’s, and then hop around?

or,

How about we just have drinks at my place?

Sweet summer child, here is where you fuck up no matter how you answer:

Ok, Manny’s sounds good.”

or,

Would you like me to get any drinks with me?”

See, if you go with the first option, the person you’re with is gonna be ‘ok’ with it, but not ‘fine’; because they want you (even though you’ve already fucked and been on dates before) to clear the slate which continuously asks: “What is the purpose behind all of this?”

as in,

Where do we stand with each other?”

Another way of understanding would be ‘K’, as in they would respond to your ‘ok’ as if they read ‘K’.

If you go with the second option, they are ‘fine’ but they are not ‘ok’. They are fine with you wanting to spend quality time with them in a private space, with fucking as an option and not a necessity; but they are not ok with the fact that you didn’t suggest going out to explore a new place. Usually the latter is accompanied by “We never do anything exciting. We just wine and dine, or fuck. I want us to do new things.” And here is where things get even more fucked up, because in both replies the purposes become blurred, almost unified. ‘Ok” and ‘fine’ join forces in confusing you further.

Two final possible replies remain after this for you:

“Ok, I’ll see you.”

or,

“It’s fine, I’ll order delivery if we run out of things to drink.”

The first suggests that you are never going to see the person again, even if you do. The second implies that the person wishes that you wouldn’t need that many drinks to feel comfortable, or to get going with it.

End of case study.

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